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Transitioning from a platonic friendship to a romantic relationship, also known as going from friends to lovers, is a significant and delicate process.
Quite a number of us have made best friends out of someone of the opposite sex and at that do the things that best friends do together.
Best friends always end up seeing each other as siblings or at least related by blood. This is cool for same-sex best friends but can end up complicated for friends of the opposite sex.
This is visible in the movies “just friends” and “from friend to fiancé”
Like I highlighted earlier, the transition from friends to lover can be very complicated. Taking away the way your friend pictures you is the essential part and a hard nut to crack.
One thing is certain if you want to move from this friend zone to a romantic stage, and that’s patience.
You have to carefully step out of the platonic relationship and move into a romantic one, or you end up losing the friendship altogether.
Follow this article carefully as I show you what you need to do to transition for being just a friend to being the love of your friend’s life.
Don’t rush it
This is very essential if you want to leave that friend zone that you are no longer comfortable with. If truly she sees you as just a friend and nothing more, you’ll need to take things slowly.
If it’s is any consolation, along with passion and respect, friendship is one of the three basic ingredients of a successful relationship.
So, get rid of the mindset that friendship will play the role of an obstacle to your chances of getting her.
Instead, see it as a stepping stone for you to win her over for good. Maintain the friendship with her and don’t be in a hurry to leave.
Spend more quality time together
But we do spend quality time together? This will definitely cross your mind. Anyways, let it be obvious to her that this time things are different.
Don’t make it seem like the normal casual friendship meeting but something more intimate. Although, still make it look like it’s all in the name of friendship (if you know what I mean).
Take her to her favourite spot to eat together. Go to the cinemas to see a movie together. Play fun games together. This will make her start developing a certain type of likeness for you different from the likeness of “just friends”
Reduce the time you spend together
This happens to contradict point number 2. However, it is a very vital step after you’ve gotten her used to always seeing you around.
This way, she gets to miss you and realize her important you are to her life. Mind you, don’t reduce spending time with her for absolutely no reason.
Let her feel that there is something actually important that’s taking your time. This will enable her to figure out how she feels before you begin the next step.
Flatter her and flirt with her
Moving on from the previous step, come back to her in a different way from where you left her. Do things differently, not like what a platonic friend will do.
Flatter her more often and when the opportunity to flirt with her arises, do it without thinking twice.
This will make her start seeing you in a different light than she normally sees you. As you do these, make show you improve your communication skills and time with her.
Girls love a lot of attention and this is what you should be giving her at this point in time. Then you will be only one step away from making her your love.
Pick the right time and place to express how you feel
This is the last and most important step. If you do it wrongly, I bet your dream of making a lover out of her will remain only a dream.
The first 4 steps have already given her signs of what you want and have made her realize that she can actually fall for you.
The ball is now in your court to express how you feel to her at the right time and place.
I’ll advise you do this in the cool of the evening and in a nice romantic environment. Create a romantic atmosphere and genuinely pour out how you feel to her. There is a very high chance that your bestie will turn into your lover.
Disclaimer: These steps are not 100% certain to work even if you follow them accordingly. However, there is a high chance that you can win your best friend over following these steps. Also, make sure she is single (presently not in any romantic relationship) before going ahead with this.